Is it really that time again?
Wow.
It seems like every store has one aisle that’s jam-packed with red hearts, oversized stuffed animals that talk or sing, and cards that play music. Those boxes of candy hearts with sayings like “Take Me, I’m Yours”, and “So Fine” are falling off the shelves. Everything is coated in chocolate!
Tacky lingerie is being sold on the side of the highway. Love letters drenched in Old Spice, Jean Nate, and Love’s Baby Soft. Every family has at least one person trying to sell Valentine’s Day baskets with that dusty bottle of Sparkling Cider.
Oh, I got jokes!
Don’t front.
I see you in line at Victoria’s Secret buying the obvious. Blowing your whole paycheck to impress your boo.
I see your boo in line buying you that oversized stuffed animal that talks or sings, and a box of them candy hearts.
It’s Valentines Day!
While this holiday brings joy and excitement for some, there are others who loathe the idea of dealing with an entire day dedicated to love. ‘Tis the season to be vulnerable. Whether or not you choose to admit it, we all want someone to truly love us. As a single woman of God who is set on holding out for His best this day brings mixed emotions. Last year I was screaming, “Jesus is my Valentine! And what?!”
This year I’m kinda like “Jesus I love you but waiting is taking forever!”
And I know I’m not the only one. If everyone is looking for true love(at the same time, lol) why can’t anyone find it? People are caught up in these illicit relationships praying that God will bless them. Loneliness can cause us to step out of character and accept the less than for attention and companionship. Some have given up on waiting for God’s best in exchange for instant gratification disguised as love, causing God’s children to compromise their walk and fall into sexual temptation.
Yeah, I could get really deep and talk about the rising rates of HIV/AIDS in our generation. I could make this a public service announcement about the STD’s that are running rampant across the globe. But I’d much rather talk about the effect sexual immorality has on your heart and God’s.
The Bible is the one book that perfectly conveys God’s heart on sexual relations outside the confines of marriage. Don’t get cute-just because penetration has not occurred doesn’t mean you can get away with it. You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God-I Corinthians 6:12, 9-11.
In God’s sight “Touch me tease me” is just as bad as the “Oops I did it again.”
Sex was designed by God to be an expression of love between a husband and wife- not “dude” and “wifey”, “Single Lady” and “Superfriend.”
Soul ties run deep! Our hearts were not designed to endure the pain and bondage that promiscuity brings. This is why God wants us to guard our hearts. Our hearts were primarily created to be shaped and molded by God by developing an intimate relationship with Him. It breaks the heart of God to see His children bound up in sin, especially if He has rescued you from that sin before. Sexual immorality prevents the Holy Spirit from performing a complete transformation in your life. Until you are married your body belongs to Christ. Our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit. Our minds are in the process of becoming identical with Christ’s. Allowing Jesus to fill the void in your life protects you from becoming bruised and damaged. When God does open the door for the right person to come into your life there will be less emotional baggage to sort through.
I realize there are people who truly want to be free from the bondage of sexual immorality. Romans 7 really helps us to understand the power of sin. You have tried just about everything but freedom doesn’t seem to be in your future.
Unfortunately, you may just have to cut it off.
I’m sorry. What?
So if your eye—even your good eye—causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell-Matthew 5:29.
Cut off the text messages, lunch dates, the late-night phone sessions that help you fall asleep…
Cut off anything that can easily slow down God’s hand in healing and restoring you emotionally, spiritually and physically. It’s better to give up the five minutes of pleasure than to spend eternity in Hell.
Yes, the single life gets hard. It can be lonely at times. Waiting for God’s best can also be an emotionally frustrating issue. However, I’d much rather wait on God and experience true intimacy with Him than to give out my candy hearts to every Pookie and Peanut that approaches me.
Choose to wait today.
Because playing with fire causes burning. (I’ll let that one marinate).
Breaking God’s heart usually leads to your heart being broken. Allow God to untie your soul ties and untangle your heart from sexually impure relationships.
Keep your Secrets to yourself and have a Happy Valentine’s Day.
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